“Now, How are you Supposed to Get Horny in this Place?”

Newbie swingers can feel intimidated in the presence of a groups of people having lots of sex. It’s one thing to want to potentially find another person or couple to have sex with, but to do so in front of strangers, and in a new environment, can overwhelm the senses and lead you to think that maybe you won’t be able to actually get turned on. This couple puts us in their shoes for their first visit to a swing club.

The very first time we entered this ”new Special World, the swinging world!” we went to a club. As a first step, it is definitely something to recommend. It’s a good way to get used to watching people having sex — just for one thing! — watch A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVING SEX! Get used to glory holes and swings and all the other things that can be used to improve the experience of having sex with other people. And, in a club, if you like, you can choose to watch more than participate. And no, we were not shocked, although it was quite a lot to take in for beginners like us. And, we ended up in a gynecological chair, thinking: “hmm, is this really sexy?…” By the sound of moans and screams from the other rooms, we tried our best to get the feeling right, and one of us said spontaneously: “Now, how are you supposed to get horny in this place?…” And why we often come back to that “legendary line” (ha!) is because that’s how we sometimes feel entering a club or a party “… what are we doing here; can we actually have sex in here?…” 

Neither of us steps right into a club or party with the desire to have sex right up to a hundred. No, we are more like, “well, let’s try to do this slooooow and get in the mood… it will probably take a while…” Around us, we see men who have a hard-on at the same time as they say hello. And by the sounds of some women, it has nothing to do with gender; they can also have a very short take-off distance. But, our longer take-off-distance has nothing to do with us not wanting to enter this tempting Special World. No, no, we would not rather be at home on our sofa watching a movie. We simply need time to let the sensualism grow. We need to wake up the excitement. 

There is an expression, “responsive desire,” which means that you do not feel excitement or desire until you experience actual pleasure. It was nice to realize that there is a description of us. Diagnoses are often a relief. Those with an instant hard-on and those who scream and groan after a twenty seconds have something called “spontaneous lust,” a thought impulse in them leads to physical arousal, and then they want as quickly as possible to have physical stimulation. There’s nothing wrong with that — there is room for all of us. We, who have this responsive desire, are certainly not less sexual than others, we just need to be triggered to get started. And when we get started — wow, you better be prepared!

So, here is our message to all of you who may feel a little awkward in the beginning: just don’t. Try to take it easy and slow down. Try to turn to each other, find the feeling with kisses, with licks and sniffing each other, and try to remind each other what turns you on when you’re alone with each other. That’s a very good place to start: with your own amazing sex. Then, take a look around and… Yes! Bodies and hands and mouths and cocks and pussies, and yes, they’re all there for you if you’d like them to be.

So, How Did it Go?

And, how did our very first time at the club go? Yes, we did succeed in getting horny in the gynecological chair. And, from there on, we had a really great night on a large mattress in another room. We dreamt about getting into “a lovely mess of sex,” and that’s exactly what we got — on our very first night! 

We remember ending up lying beside each other, smiling, at the same time two women and one man (as we can remember — there could have been even more people! — were going down on us. We kissed each other (well, we did our best; it’s not that easy to kiss when you’re about to cum at the same time!), and we just knew that this Special World was from here on was going to be our world!

This story was submitted to our SDC Erotic Writing Contest:
“Our First Swinging Experience” by one of our members.

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