Stella Harris is a healthy communication rock star, and just released a new bestselling book on the subject. In this episode, Stella teaches us: what to do when one partner isn’t putting in the effort; boundary and expectation setting in the early part of relationships; how communication differs for vanilla and BDSM situations; navigating consent without ruining the mood; sexual improv tips and communication exercises for improving your sex life and more!
Sunny shows her appreciation for Bi Visibility Day and endures a lot of pounding while Ken is away. Catch Stella’s bonus story about a very unusual first date on Patreon.
Stella Harris is such a nerd about communication that she wrote a book about it — look for Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships this September from Cleis Press. As a Certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients, and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy to communication skills to kink and BDSM. Stella teaches at venues and conferences across the country (and Canada!) most recently appearing at ConvergeCon in Vancouver BC, Dark Odyssey: Surrender in San Francisco, Kinky Kollege in Chicago, and Reed College in her adopted hometown of Portland, Oregon. In addition to her new book, Stella writes a sex column for the Willamette Week.
Widely quoted in the media, Stella has made guest appearances on numerous podcasts including Sex on the Brain, Strange Bedfellows, and Playboy Radio. Her articles have appeared in Cosmopolitan, on Kinkly.com, and on Fetish.com, and her fiction is included in more than a dozen anthologies.