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Among many things, Taylor (aka Mariposa) is a passionate erotic educator, certified in both holistic aromatherapy and human behavior. With over a decade of experience in the natural skincare/cosmetics industry, and in retail/merchandising, Ms. Sparks launched Organic Loven. Organic Loven specializes in improving adult’s sexual health/wellness and enhancing their sex lives via their organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toy materials, sex-positive books, and erotic educational seminars. Prior to launching Organic Loven, she developed a line of 16 head-to-toe organic body care products for elite endurance athletes, called Skin Care for Athletes Tri-Body Products. These products were featured in Muscle & Fitness Hers and the ESPN Magazines, sponsored numerous triathlons, 5ks and marathons as well as 5 Olympian athletes in both the summer and winter Olympics.
Facilitating adult travel and passionate experiences
As a leading facilitator in the adult travel industry for many years, Taylor has served as an Experience Advisor for thousands of international travelers, bringing joy and happiness to all she encounters. Taylor remains passionate about bringing people to new destinations and providing opportunities for amazing open-living experiences.
An innovative, renowned speaker
While traveling around the globe, Taylor has become renowned in the adult travel industry and is a powerful public speaker both nationally and internationally. Her workshop series: ‘How To Make Good Pussy, Better,’ is extremely popular and focuses on the health benefits of organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toys and the fun of the Liberator sex pillows.
For more than 15 years before, she was a highly sought after corporate trainer with an expertise in the areas of: Communication & Negotiation, Leadership & Business Management, Customer Service and Team Building with a specialty in DISC Personality Assessments. Taylor is also a published author; her most recent book entitled What’s A Girl To Do In A Big City if She Can’t Dance? When Stripping Is Not An Option!
She is also the founder of Sisters of Sexuality collective and the Sisters of Sexuality: Five Shades of Play podcast, which has a mission of educating, entertaining and informing in all areas of sexuality, kink, relationships, orgasmic energy and the business of sex. With over 100k downloads and listeners in more than 600 cities around the globe, the Sisters of Sexuality podcast can be heard on all major podcast platforms.
Taylor is socially and environmentally conscious and a strong supporter of all things organic, natural and eco-friendly… including Love.
“Give as much love as you want to receive, be it monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous, straight, bi, gay or transgender… just LOVE: Boldly, Deeply, Naturally, Organically, Purely”
1. Your brand, Organic Loven, focuses on all-natural products and the education around our sexual health. Why is it so important for people to pay more attention to their sexual health and know what their sex toys and sensual products are made of?
As a person certified in holistic aromatherapy, I know how important it is to know what you are putting on your skin and within the body because the skin is porous and we absorb up to 60% of what we put on it, into the bloodstream. The vagina and anus are covered in a mucus membrane and it absorbs up to 100% of what we put on it. Using chemical-based lubricants and condoms can actually cause more harm than their intentions. For example, lubricants with propylene glycol are extremely drying to the vaginal tissue… but it is a lubricant that is supposed to… lubricate. Also, when a woman gets dry and continues to have vaginal penetration, she can end up with micro-tears in the vagina leaving her susceptible to bacteria and/or viruses. The same can be said for your sex toys. Sex toys that are made cheaply, especially those made of a ‘jelly’ because they contain phthalates, a group of chemicals that make plastics more flexible and harder to break. When heated in a microwave using your plastic containers, the chemicals, which have been linked to a number of cancers, leach into the contents. So why would you put that same type of plastic into a 96.8-degree body and have those same chemicals leach into your system?
2. You often educate about impact play and BDSM. In what ways do you think the open lifestyle and kink community intersect?
I believe they intersect in the area that they both are alternative lifestyles. Each community is ‘outside of the norm’ and the people that enter it are happy to find their tribes. There is nothing better than realizing that your normal is part of a group of other normal people with all the same normal needs, wants, and desires.
3. How can one community help and learn from the other?
One would believe that being part of an alternative lifestyle, that the people within that lifestyle had learned to release judgment of others. But we tend to carry those judgments and biases with us wherever we go until some kind soul says… uh… you know you are being a bit bias… don’t you? Once we learn to release our judgment of others, we will discover we have more in common than not in common. As they say in the kink world, don’t yuck on anybody else’s yum.
4. Taylor, you personally identify as being polyamorous. What kinds of skills can people in other forms of ethically non-monogamous relationships learn from healthy polyamory? (e.g. dealing with jealousy, dividing time/attention, self-care, etc.)
One of the most important skills I learned was identifying that I and I alone am responsible for my own happiness and my own bullshit. When we come to accept that we are polyamorous, either as a dating lifestyle or a sexual orientation, one of the most important skills is learning how to communicate effectively with all people involved in a relationship with you. It can be quite a challenge to be a good communicator with one partner, but with two or three partners the communication skills must quadruple. One thing that is equally as important is learning to actively listen… not just hearing what is being said to you but to have the ability to comprehend and repeat back what you believe you heard.
5. Many people in the lifestyle have attended at least one erotic travel event in the past. What kinds of erotic travel adventures have you experienced so far?
Although I started as a client, once I transitioned into working in the lifestyle travel industry as an educator, I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing them all. I’ve been on the larger lifestyle cruises that visit the many Caribbean islands, which are quite fun, but you must pace yourself or you won’t make it through the week. There is so much going on all day and night and with upwards of 4500 people, you can find and lose a sexy connection all in the same day! I’ve also had the pleasure of presenting on the luxury lifestyle cruises. These are small upscale luxury cruises that have taken me from Athens, Greece to Istanbul, Turkey; Rio de Janeiro, Brazil to Argentina; Stockholm, Sweden to Amsterdam; Rome, Italy to Barcelona, Spain, and Alaska! I’ve been to the Hedonism Resort in Negril, Jamaica; Desire Resort in Riviera Maya, Mexico. I’ve attended hotel takeovers in Cap d’Agde, France and Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, and Durham, NC. The lifestyle conferences, Naughty in Nawlins in New Orleans, and the new Couples Xcapades in Houston, TX are equally fun! I’ve also enjoyed small house parties.
6. Can you share an erotic travel destination that’s on your bucket list?
Tahiti/Bora Bora, and I’m getting that off the list this year!
7. How has the open lifestyle contributed to your personal growth?
When I entered into the open lifestyle community, I went in with the limiting thoughts of a monogamous person. What I discovered was that there is no real ‘right or wrong way’ to have a successful relationship, regardless of whether your relationship is open or closed. I have met so many examples of people having adjusted their relationships based on discovering their needs, be they emotional or sexual, and then having the full support of their partners. I’ve also met both single men and women who have fully embraced their own stance on sex and sexuality and make no apologies about their own desires. I’ve come to identify what is most important to me in my relationship(s) and the need to improve upon my communication style, not only as a presenter, but as a wife, girlfriend, and lover.
8. How can being open-minded about relationships potentially help others with their own erotic awakenings and personal journeys?
Learning to stand in your about your own needs, wants, and desires can awaken all levels of intimacy. Being open-minded about others’ desires, even if they are not your own, can help you feel more secure in your own decisions. It is not a requirement that we love the way others love. It is more important to be open enough to discover what is best for you… and the bodies you love to love!
This article originally appeared in the March 2020 issue of ASN Lifestyle Magazine.