Lexi was a guest on the Ladies, Let’s Talk About Sex podcast, and she and host Felicia talk about what it’s like to live an authentically ethically-non-monogamous lifestyle.
A taboo topic for some, ethical non-monogamy is my life’s calling: both living my life authentically within a healthy open relationship, and educating folks looking to expand their horizons.
It was an honor to join Felicia for her podcast episode, Ladies Let’s Talk About Sex, to discuss the “taboo” topic of non-monogamy.
We talked about the positive aspects of open relationships, which is truly mind-expanding! While open relationships can look different for everyone, the most common positive is being able to explore more sexual and emotional connections as established by the partners involved. I always stress how no two relationships are alike, which brings us to the important discussion on practicing non-monogamy ethically: What does that even mean?
Listen to our full episode in the player above.
In This Episode
The importance of an open relationship being ethical and consensual may seem confusing to some, but it simply entails being honest and practicing in a manner that’s healthy for all parties involved. Without the “consensual” part of non-monogamy, it’s just cheating.
In ensuring your non-monogamous relationship IS consensual from the get-go, what questions need to be asked when transitioning from a monogamous relationship to an open one? How will you and your partner address your needs, wants, and concerns?
I told Felicia how normal it is to experience jealousy in all types of relationships (even platonic ones) and the importance of how we act on these kinds of feelings. Jealousy can signal many things, but mostly the inner feeling of not being enough or perhaps lacking (e.g., in self-confidence). In the course of protecting ourselves and our egos, we can sometimes lash out at our partner(s) and cause more damage in a relationship. So how do we avoid the negative repercussions of experiencing jealousy?
Gently approaching these potential feelings of jealousy and other insecurities, and starting to communicate together, is a good baseline to determine if non-monogamy is for you and your relationship. It takes time, practice, and a whole lot of self-love to establish trusting relationships, no matter the style.
In this episode, I also share about my years of experience as a coach, and how I help couples transition to a healthy non-monogamous space. Through my coaching, I help couples and partners feel validated in their needs, choices, and especially educate them on the non-monogamous culture and how they can be a part of it.
If you’re ready to start your journey, be sure to see my coaching services and book a FREE 15 minute discovery call to get my expertise.
Until next time, Stay Lexual!