The BiMale Divide

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The BiMale Divide

It’s time we addressed this issue from our perspective. We’ll try to be as informative as possible. Bisexual acceptance is an incredibly important topic to us.

It’s time we addressed this issue from our perspective. We’ll try to be as informative as possible. Bisexual acceptance is an incredibly important topic to us.

Lesbian Gay BISEXUAL Transgender Presence

The LGBT community is real, expanding, and making the world a more compassionate place. Research and reporting by the Movement Advancement Project (MAP) estimates that even though more than half of the LGBT community in the U.S. (4.1% of the population or approximately 5 million people in 2016) identifies as bisexual, the group is often overlooked when it comes to legal and social discourse.

Our society has made great strides in recognizing the rights of non-heterosexual couples. Marriage equality laws allowed millions of same-sex couples, who had been together for decades, to finally enjoy the freedom to marry one another.

Regional Threats

Discrimination in the Lifestyle

Even in open-minded Swinging Lifestyle communities, there are men and women who condemn bisexual men. Most of the reasons given for this behavior originate from outdated or misinformation about bisexual/gay men. From outdated STD/STI statistics to the fear that a bi/gay man might touch without consent and beyond. There are various stigmas that people are still leaning on in order to outcast bisexual men.

STI Misconceptions

Fear-based Violence

It’s not uncommon for hetero-normative males in the Swinging Lifestyle to make aggressive statements or threats in lifestyle forums that make it clear they support violence towards bisexual men. Often, the reasoning they give is because they don’t want someone touching them in a way they don’t like. This is a wonderful, teaching opportunity about the concept of consent that our society struggles with so deeply. The quip that “Homophobic men are afraid that other men will treat them like they treat women” is most definitely appropriate.

Because of this, bisexual men in the Swinging Lifestyle tend to keep their bisexuality hidden due to fears their openness may be misconstrued. Even in more progressive minded, metropolitan cities of Texas like Dallas and Austin, there is a hesitation to be forthcoming with that information.

Not Entirely Wrong

Let’s be honest here, dark rooms at swinger clubs provide plenty of opportunity for anyone to cross consent lines. So, the fear the homophobic person has is not unfounded. That being said, threatening violence is not the way to handle that fear.

There are plenty of stories from friends who may have an ass in the air at the club and a random spectator might spank, caress, fondle or otherwise touch without consent. Most of these scenarios don’t end in violence, however. The best-case reaction is a clear and concise expression of boundaries. The most common scenario is the offender disappearing before confrontation or being too intoxicated to understand they just committed a party foul.

Enough Fact, Now Opinion

It truly is frustrating to see so many people feel the need to hide. But not me. Not us. We proudly describe ourselves as Pansexuals.

We paraphrase the definition of that to say that we, essentially, are attracted to people rather than genitals, so long as there is intimate/sexual chemistry. Chemistry is the important part.

Relating that to the grand scheme of this blog post, it means that I, Daniel, am sexually active with all genders. Additionally, Nikki is sexually active with all genders. Sometimes, it’s easier to claim the bisexual title when describing my sexual interactions. These sexual interactions do not change who I am as a person. I’m not a predator or disease ridden. I’m not an irresponsible risk taker. I am a person and I am more than happy to explore other genders, as well. The only requirement is a mental and physical chemistry between myself and that PERSON.

Why We Advocate

It is my opinion that the older and the less experienced tend to develop strong feelings about any variety of topics. Male Bisexuality seems to be one of the topics that, with little or no experience interacting with bi-men, leaves some with only preconceived notions. Where these people go wrong is using those preconceptions as justification for violence. Violence towards anyone over their sexual orientation is wrong. There is no justification for it.

The side effects of not feeling accepted in society are well documented with the LGBT community. Depression and suicide CAN happen if our people, the human kind, feel like they are being rejected. This is why we take a stance. This is why we feel the need to protect.

We try to be examples of how normal, respectful people can be from any variety of background. We don’t represent any kind of unusual risk to anyone. Our intent is to never force what we do onto others. If you are afraid or think we are more of a risk; if you think less of us because of our choices… Those thoughts are on you and your biases. You’re the one missing out on our friendship. We are happy, and we are doing what we can to help others be happy too.


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