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The Swingers Lifestyle
For the majority of people raised in Western society in the last century, there are a few who engage in a relationship that does not involve monogamy, at best an oxymoron, hypocrite. The traditional modality of a relationship implies that the promise is faithful and sexually exclusive to a single partner for the duration of the relationship. Swingers take an alternative route, but it is one that can provide more trust and honesty than traditional monogamous relationships do.
Swingers are couples (both heterosexual and gay) who have made a conscious, consensual decision to participate in a dedicated relationship that allows them to explore recreational sex with other couples and individuals.
At the heart of a solid swingers relationship is the openness, communication and trust needed from both partners to openly discuss issues such as fantasies and desires. This is also necessary to detect such fantasies within preset boundaries. So sex is a very small part of a Swingers relationship. “To swingers, physical acts of sexual pleasure with someone you respect, just for pleasure and love for your lifelong partner are two clearly different things.” This form of sexual identity is clearly outside the norm and pushes the envelope on what most ‘normal’ couples would find acceptable. The question has arisen – does the Swingers Lifestyle have the same recognition as other sexual minorities?
As found in many types of sexuality, swinging comes from some common forms or variants:
Soft swinging is possibly the most common form of swinging relationships between couples, and refers to watching, being watched, reciprocal masturbation, caressing and possibly oral sex, but without dealing with partners for penetration.
Closed swinging (the probable origin for the term ‘female swapping’) is a common form of swinging in which partners swing with one or more close couples.
Open or full swingers refers to couples sharing the same room and possibly bed. This satisfies individuals who want to watch and be watched, as well as those of their spouse watching with another person. It is also common for bisexual women to enjoy themselves while their husbands are watching.
Group swinging refers to an orgy situation, although this term is not very popular with swingers, many swingers find that this form of swinging lifestyle satisfies their desires for exhibitionism and voyeurism at the same time.
Regardless of the type of swinging lifestyle a couple is engaged in, the common rule that runs through all swinging relationships is that ‘no really means no’. And that any behavior that causes discomfort or crosses the boundaries that couples can set is anathema to the swingers lifestyle. It is also a firm expectation that couples should discuss their limits before they start swinging. Another pillar of the swingers lifestyle is that polite acceptance and refusal are paramount to maintaining a healthy atmosphere in any clubs/">swingers club or relationship. This draws parallels from the gay cursing scene, which does not always mean no and that a polite decline should never be taken personally. The clandestine nature of swingers and the lifestyle of swinger’s life seems to create a label that excludes the possibility of violence or unlawful conflict. This etiquette creates a situation where women enjoy a degree of sexual trust, freedom and strength rarely found in the outside world. This more fluid version of monogamy can be seen as a sexual power shift in favor of women within the traditional monogamous relationship structure.
The concept of monogamous relationships is inexorably linked to the institution of marriage between couples (as well as that of relationships in the ‘commitment’ phase). It is remarkable that monogamy is not necessary for any of the above, but it is society that assumes that the former cannot exist without the latter. Swingers and swingers are not completely bent to destroy marriage or relationships between couples in their general sense. The distinction that the imposition of monogamy on their relationship is purely social allows pregnant couples to maintain relationships that are mature to a point where the aforementioned sexual force is fluid and renegotiated in a subconscious plane. This practical arrangement replaces the socially armed and predetermined convention of monogamy.
A consistent point arising from research by Thomas & Terry Gould, is that in almost every interview held, it was the male part of couples who first suggested to the woman to go swinging. However, it was the woman who made the effort to maintain this lifestyle practice. Swinging offers women more than sexual freedom. It offers them the opportunity for self-discovery. This is evidenced by the very high levels of bi-sexuality in swinging women, but that fact that bi-sexuality in men is only horrible in the swinging community. This may be linked to the fact that the swingers society considers it much more acceptable for a woman to go into relationships with another woman with the pleasure of her and her partner than for the same couple to exchange partners. Whatever the reason for this trend, the swinging lifestyle is one of the opportunities for modern women to explore all facets of their sexuality in a safe and comfortable environment.