Swingers home parties

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Swingers home parties

It’s normal to be very nervous when you have your first swing experience at a swingers-clubs/">swingers club or at home with other couples. Some couples feel intimidated by the idea of going to an adult club for their first experience and place ads in swing magazines, internet ads, telepersonals, etc. And arrange a meeting with a potential person or couple at home. Some of these first time experiences go very well, but many of them end on a terrible night for various reasons.

We wish we had known about the swingers-clubs/">swingers clubs a lot earlier in our swing experiences. We highly recommend adult clubs as a first meeting or a swing experience in the swingers lifestyle for the following reasons, safety in numbers, no busy atmosphere, social erotic atmosphere, neutral location, experienced advisors, family and neighbors don’t come in, someone else changes CD’s and much more.

When you and your partner have decided to meet a new couple and swing partners for a full partner exchange or your first swing experience at home, here are some useful tips that will make the evening a great success, or at least more fun and safe. First of all, screen your couples thoroughly !!! Get to know them as much as possible before you start dating. It’s best to meet a new couple socially at your home, before you get together in private. Make sure you get along and that there is an attraction for ALL players, not just three (hoping that the fourth one falls into place). It is highly recommended to meet couples at an adult club. Even better if you meet these pairs in action at a local club.


Not every location is perfect for your first swing experience! Think of the saying in business, that the location can make or break any visit. The same goes for swinging, so take the time to find the right club or location. Find a cozy place in the house to meet each other. Remove coffee tables. Do not sit at a table, especially not at the kitchen table. Any physical object between you and the other couple usually makes it much more difficult to become cozy and intimate. If you don’t remove these objects, this will be a social evening and not an intimate event. If you only want and have a social evening, make sure the tables are used.

Prepare the appropriate space for sexual play or intercourse. If your designated area is the bedroom, fresh sheets and well tidied and coloured red lights are a must. If your designated area is the same as your meeting or social area, make sure you have pillows or a folding bed or mattress nearby. Don’t forget condoms, Kleenex, bins, soap, towels, etc.


You don’t want your kids or neighbors to see 100% of the action (or maybe you do), so use colored lights, preferably red, and the lights low and intimate, scented candles are a nice touch. To make your evening a success, you want to date some soft, slow music, date some XXX movies without sound or at low volume. You will find differences of opinion about the XXX movies being played, we find that if your evening is social OR sexual, the movies will keep you focused on the subject of sex and the social conversations will become what everyone likes and dislikes about sex.

If you have children at home, it is a must that you let them sleep with friends or family so that your evening is free of distractions or embarrassment. Many couples can’t have fun for many different reasons, living with older family members, neighbours who are always invading and many other very good reasons.

Up up!

Showering and cleaning up before the date arrives is a must. This is like dating, you have to be at your best. Good care is a winner every time. Condoms and tissues should be close and visible. Don’t forget to brush your teeth, mouthwash, deodorant, shave, perfume or perfume and brush your hair. If your nails are rough, don’t forget to clean and trim them.

Unecessary SPACE

Never sit next to your partner if you want the evening to be warm and intimate, you need to provide space for your guests to feel comfortable with each of you. Be friendly and honest. If you are nervous, tell them, the other couple is probably nervous too and talking about it will help break the ice. Talk about the swingers lifestyle and fantasies, stay away from topics about work or your children. Most couples have a hard time taking the first step. The more open and comfortable you both are, makes your invited friends feel relaxed and excited to date. Extra pillows and blankets should be readily available.


Wear clothing that is sexy and easy to remove. Invite your friends to wear something similar and sexy. Your friends can change at your home if the mood is good. Wear different layers of clothing, so you can take off which feels comfortable when the evening arrives.

If your invited guests never see the revealing outfit you had underneath, at least your partner will get his chance when the visit is over.


Leave your inhibitions at home or in the closet. It can be fun to try different things or people. Swingers come in all different sizes, shapes, ages, colors, religions and each person is different in the way they will date you.

We have met a lot of beautiful couples in this swingers lifestyle in every age, color, size and so on. Anything you can think of. It can be fun to date a playmate who is younger, older, taller, shorter, etc. Is. When you are both open to try different things freely in the swingers lifestyle, you will both have a lot of fun.

Many couples start in the swingers lifestyle for the first time with a shopping list of requirements that a couple must meet before dating them. It’s very important that you feel comfortable with the people you’re dating, we just want to point out that if your list is too big, no couple will be able to meet all your requirements. Some couples look for the perfect 10 in appearance and body figure, to find out that the match is very few and the experiences were certainly not 10. Most couples find much more fun in the swingers lifestyle if they experiment perfectly 10 outdoors or normal.

We have been with very young couples, we would swear that we have been swinging for 10 years or more and that some older couples have really warmed us up! There must be something that clicks or turns you on when you meet new potential couples. There is no secret here, you will feel an attraction or not. Some people can look through a room and let you get wet in your pants. Sometimes we will experiment with a person who is totally opposite to what our partner is like to experience something completely different and erotic at the same time. Some people can date softly and cuddly, while others stop and hack you, bam, thanks mom! Variation is the spice of life and especially swinging!

It’s For The Kids

Keep other distractions off, such as the ringer on the phone, beeper, and mobile phones. These are all small things, but if you try to make the evening erotic, these small distractions can sometimes destroy the whole mood of the evening.
We had several couples together in a private house for an erotic evening of hot sex. Their neighbors saw all the cars in their driveway and on the street, so they looked to see what was going on. The neighbors weren’t from the swingers lifestyle, but were good friends with the hosts and didn’t want to leave. The party never got off the ground and everyone finally gave up by midnight. Their neighbors told them they liked to meet all the couples and thought we were all nice outgoing people. They even looked forward to the next meeting! They don’t know that they destroyed the whole swing party that was planned for that night.

Hold the evening!

Keep the house warm or warm enough so you can’t cool off when you take off your clothes. If the temperature is too cold or the air conditioning is too high, most couples are not interested in having a cold to date sexually.
If couples mention that it’s a little hot in the room, this is the reason to discuss the topic of turning the ladies into something revealing or comfortable. Most ladies will be happy to answer the request.

Don’t just talk, get up as a foursome and dance to the slow music! Dance very close, start caressing, kissing, masturbating, revealing body parts. This is the quickest way to get the sexual interaction going! Go to your designated sexual play area and have fun.

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