Swingers rules and procedures

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Swingers Rules and etiquette

Policies and procedures, behavior and rules may vary from club to club. Following the rules is an effective way to make yourself welcome in the swingers community. Familiarize yourself with the policies and procedures of the club you want to visit. The following general guidelines are common in most clubs. Most etiquette when swinging is just common sense, but a few rules and suggestions you may not have thought about.

The cardinal rule: The cardinal rule is “No” means “No”. Respect the rights as a feeling and level of comfort of others and their partner or partner. You will be asked to leave any club if you violate this rule. A new partner usually refuses your advances if you are too intrusive. You must respect other people’s wishes when they say “no, thank you”. You will expect the same courtesy from others when you decide to say “no, thank you”.
Drugs and alcohol: illegal drugs are not welcome in a swingers’ environment. In many clubs you can bring your own alcohol and they will write your name on your bottle and keep it for you. Don’t expect a full-service bar in a club, because most don’t have a liquor license and therefore can’t serve alcohol.

Hygienic: be clean and disease free. Don’t forget to bathe or shower before going to events. Body odors can be a quick way to end your fun. If you’re playing with another partner, you should wash yourself before playing with another partner.

Be neat: when you’re done with an area, don’t forget to clean up. Try to keep your clothes, shoes and jewelry in one place. We advise you to leave expensive jewelry at home.

Condoms are a must: it’s up to us to protect ourselves and our partners. With the current concern about sexually transmitted diseases, the use of condoms should not offend anyone. Condom use is expected by most swingers. If you are careful, you can keep the risk low, although sexually transmitted diseases are always possible.
Be prepared: always be prepared for a party or club. Bring everything you need. A small sports bag full of things is suitable. Items we recommend include toiletries, towels, condoms and clothing. You can also bring some “sexy lingerie” if you’re not planning on wearing anything under your clothes. It’s also handy if you have some printed papers or cards with your first names and a contact phone number if you meet a couple you’d like to stay in touch with.

Home parties: keep in mind that when you are attending a private party in a house, this is someone’s house and you should behave accordingly. Follow the guidelines regarding smoking, drinking, parking, play area etc.
R.S.V.P: like any party, if you have been invited, it is considered a proper etiquette to reply as soon as you decide whether or not you will attend. If it is a club or a party, it is not appropriate to appear without your partner.

Bring something with you: never appear at a private party empty-handed. Ask ahead if you are not sure what to bring. Drink or food is most common. For a house, you may even consider candles or flowers.

Use of space: Whether you are at a private party or in a club, know the space rules. Doors should never be locked, although some may be referred to as “private”, “semi-private” or “open”. Just because you’re in an open room doesn’t mean you should join. Nor does it mean that only someone can party with you. Don’t forget that you can say no, even in an open room.

Discretion: what happens when you see someone you know at a club or at a party? Don’t worry. They’re probably not going to say anything. After all – YOU’ve seen them too. When you talk to them, don’t ask ‘personal’ questions they may not want others to know about.

You and your partner: The most important thing is to have a good time, express your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude. You are there to have the best time and to share the uninhibited pleasure with those who have discovered a new dimension in their lifestyle. Do not hesitate to introduce yourself to other people. You will find that they would like to welcome you. Think about the level of comfort and feelings of your partner and other partners. Communicate your feelings with your partner and your new sexual partners.

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