Dealing with swingers jealousy
Do you get jealous when your partner looks at the opposite sex? If you do, how do you think you’ll deal with the fact that your partner is having sexual intercourse or playing sexually with a new partner? For the most part, jealousy is very healthy, but too much of it can be a big problem in the swinging world. The biggest secret of dealing with jealousy is to discuss all the possibilities that can arise and that are usually used in the swingers’ lifestyle. By reading some of our examples, you will get a good picture of the situations that come up in the lifestyle.
Many couples think they are not jealous until they see their partner acting or enjoying themselves in a totally different way than they have done with you before. We often see this at clubs and parties, where we hear the comment that, you’ve never done this for me before, you’ve never made those sounds with me before, you’ve never told me you’re BI, etc.
There are some simple and logical reasons why this happens at your first party or club. Most couples get involved in swinging after being together for a while or years. When couples only play with the same partner for many years, it can become very routine and you start looking for something to improve your good relationship by entering the swingers lifestyle. When planning your first outing to a club or private meeting, you want to show your best side by showering, tidying up, fresh breath, clean clothes, etc. This desire to put on your best side or show is also carried by yourself in the bedroom or any playroom where you want the new partner to be totally happy with you and you are excited to let go of your hair and have the time of your life!
So many couples are so excited during their first experience with a new partner or couple that they release many of their inhibitions and even try many new things that are daring and exciting and that they may never have tried with their partner.
Some men ask their ladies to act like horny sluts or do a comic strip show, but sometimes it’s hard to put on such a show for someone you know so well and maybe to laugh or tease.
Here are some other examples, your female partner has bothered you to have anal sex, but you hate it, or you want your partner to talk dirty with you during intercourse, but they hate it, or you wanted to try a BI experience, but were too embarrassed to ask or talk about it with your partner. When you keep up with new partners or couples, they all have things they love or hate, but when you find a partner who likes to play anal sex or talk dirty during sex or even feel your BI side and encourage you to let go or experiment, your libido can take over and just do it. You can imagine how your partner might feel when they have asked you in a certain way and refused you in the past and now perform this task for a complete stranger!
Many couples have never had another sexual partner in life, so the experience of a new cock or new pussy is very exciting, because every cock and pussy are different. This is what makes the swingers lifestyle so much fun. If everyone was the same, life would be boring. Variation is the herb that makes swinging so enjoyable. Someone can hold you differently, kiss you differently, or make your orgasms come in different ways than your partner you’ve been with for many years.
Don’t be as crazy as a door!
Be willing and accept the new behavior your partner is engaged in, because both of you will experience new things together and share these experiences when both of you are at home alone. Almost all couples experience an increased sexual drive for a few days or weeks after a new sexual encounter and both of you will have the memories of the evening to last you a lifetime. “Remember when that young lady sucked your pussy and ejaculated you several times.” or “Remember when you acted like a horny sex machine, when those two or three guys filled all your holes and begged you for more.” or “It was so horny to see two ladies suck your dick.”
Put yourself in this situation. Would you be angry if you see your female partner find new playmates who are crazy about her or would you be angry if you see your male partner join this new female playmate? Is it too much for you?
You have to find your comfort level for jealousy. Swinging is done at many different levels of play and there are many different clubs out there with different activities. It is very important that you discuss all the possibilities.
If participating in the picture above or looking at your partner in this group would really upset you, you need to set limits that neither of you will exceed. You might even want to stay away from the idea of swinging completely. Especially if one of you is all for it and your partner doesn’t say it in any way! Both of you must have an equal love for what you want to do in swinging together.
Jalousy can be healthy!
Put yourself in this situation. You’re in the back looking at your male partner have two ladies playing with his dick. You know the ladies are having a great time with him and he’s having a great time with them and watching you play with a new partner at the same time.
After the party you both remember during a party and tell him you got so hot watching the ladies play with him. You might have been jealous when you see a lady sucking his cock for a long time or see him coming in with his hard cock for the first time. You might be able to tell him how jealous you looked at him while he pumped his dick hard into the ladies pussy for over half an hour.
Many couples have only had one sexual partner in their lives, and seeing their partner having sex with a new partner can be a big crush on both partners, or it can make one or both partners very jealous. A little jealousy is very healthy, especially when you both get your sexual frustrations mixed up when you come home!
If you’re not sure how you would feel in this situation or are terrified by the idea, you should take things very slowly and follow the swingers lifestyle at a slow and comfortable pace. Many couples are ready to jump right in, but you are the best judge of your attitude to sex.