What to bring or to wear
It is very important that you wear clothing that is comfortable for both of you. Don’t feel pressured to dress in something sexy or provocative. Most clubs have a dress code that forbids jeans. A nice dress or skirt and blouse for the ladies and a pair of nice bottoms and a chic shirt for the men is all that is needed.
You will benefit a lot if you bring or wear clothes that are a bit sexy or revealing. Many couples will bring clothes in a small travel bag. Even if you don’t feel like wearing them, you should be prepared with some sexy clothes when the mode changes at night.
Clean up before you go to a party!
Most couples feel more at ease when the evening comes and seeing the other couples in revealing or sexy outfits can make you excited to change outfits and join them right away. Be prepared for these possibilities and you’ll never feel disappointed because you didn’t intend to. Many couples have told us that they wish they had brought a sexy outfit to change into after seeing most other couples change into sexy lingerie or similar sexy outfits at the club.
Bring a travel bag to private parties
Many swingers who attend many private parties or On Premise-clubs will put together a small travel bag with lots of necessary items. You never know if you are going to meet a new couple and are invited to come home or you decide to spend the night in a hotel or at the party location. Be prepared for all possibilities and you will not be disappointed.
Some important items to bring along are: clean underwear, toothbrush, hairbrush, condoms, a notepad for addresses and phone numbers, lingerie, air freshener, cologne or perfume, various sexy clothes, spare set of keys, deodorant, your favourite lubricant or baby oil etc.
You can save a lot of time and effort if you prepare small cards with your names and contact numbers on them. If you run into an exciting couple who want to keep in touch or meet up with you at a later time, all you have to do is give them one of your contact cards.
Bring food, snacks or drinks to FREE parties.
If you are ever invited to attend FREE parties, such as private parties, BBQs, pool parties etc., make sure you add something that can be added to the party. Some couples serve a bottle of wine, others bring snacks. It’s always nice to bring something to eat or nibble.
If there are leftovers or your gift is not used to the party, it is polite to leave it to the hosts of the party. If everything you brought was a bag of chips and it wasn’t used, leave it for the next party or for the hosts to use. Many couples who have FREE parties spend a lot of time and money on phone calls, toilet paper, towels, ice cubes, cups, napkins, cleaning up after the party, condoms, mouthwash and many other items that make a party a success.
B.Y.O.B. (Bring Your Own Bottle)
Bring your own bottle to almost all private parties. Many clubs and most private parties work according to this principle. There are many restrictions on working with a liquor license.
Bring small bottles that you know you will use at a party, such as a bottle of wine or a couple of coolers or a couple of bottles of beer. Many couples would like something to drink to feel more at ease or comfortable at parties. Most swingers don’t drink a lot. Excessive drinking will take away much of your performance, memory, and politeness when dealing with your partner or new partners. Many couples only get one alcoholic drink at most when they are at a private party.
Both men and women have no patience for a drunk man or women drooling over them. You will certainly have a lot more fun if you can remember the evening and get home safely.